I can honestly say that I never planned to type that title. But it’s true. My 5 year old has been officially unenrolled from Pre-K. He is a Pre-K dropout!
A little over a month ago, my husband made the decision to take him out of school and begin homeschooling him. And my 5 year old had no objections. He wasn’t a fan of school and had long been asking to be homeschooled.
I’ll be honest, I was completely against it. I felt that at his age, he needed structure and to be around other kids his age. Both of which I knew he wouldn’t get at home. So it was a solid “NO!” from me. But my husband pleaded. He felt very passionate about it. He homeschooled the older two boys when they were younger and wanted to do the same with the little one.
I trusted that he prayed through this and that his decision was in the best interest of our son. Despite my struggle to give up control, I allowed him to make the call. The next morning he was at the school, unenrolling our son from pre-k.
I am a planner. Everything needs to be written down and there needs to be an order to it. It’s very hard for me to function without my lists and agendas. I can’t just “wing it.” My husband, on the other hand, is the master of “wing it.” It drives me absolutely insane.
How can one teach without a lesson plan? What material are you going to cover? How will you assess that he is learning the material? I have all these questions. My husband has no answers. However, I’m trying to let go of my tendency to control and let my husband take the lead. It has been difficult for me. God is using this as one of many ways to show me that there are many things out of my control. I am slowly learning to let go of those things and trust.
I came home from work one day and asked my son, “what did you and daddy learn in school today?” and he responded, “we didn’t do school today.” I’m like, “What!? Ya’ll didn’t do school??” I frantically
walk run over to daddy and ask “why didn’t y’all do school today?” And he responds ever so calmly, “we did. It just wasn’t a formal lesson so he doesn’t think of it as school. I incorporate it into our conversations.”
That night, as I was bathing my son, he said, “mom, did you know that if I have 5 donuts and I give 3 to my friends, I would have 2 left.” “What!? How do you know that?” I asked. “Me and daddy talked about it when we ate donuts for breakfast,” he responded. So I started quizzing him with other word problems, thinking maybe he just memorized that. But guess what? He got every. single. one. RIGHT! I was completely blown away!! I haven’t met many, if any, kids in pre-k that can work mathematical word problems.
A few days later, I heard my husband and son in the kitchen discussing “good bacteria” versus “bad bacteria.” My 5 year old was leading the discussion, talking about how our body can heal itself. They’ve also had discussions on the polar opposites of magnets, generating electricity, and reflection of light. And it’s not just discussions, but hands-on experiences.
I love the way my husband incorporates life lessons into conversations while they are doing things together. They count money and discuss spending and saving. They talk about Jesus, about being honest, and how to treat people. They talk about how God made each of us different and that we should love people for who God made them to be. They pray together. They discuss taking care of ladies and how God made daddies strong to protect and provide for mommies and children.
They “fix” things together (he truly believes that daddy can fix anything – which is mostly accurate). They enjoy taking things apart and putting them back together. My husband shows him, as he explains, that if you want to fix something, you first have to look at the way it’s made and how it works.
If you have a conversation with my 5 year old, you would think you were talking with a young gentleman. His vocabulary is extended beyond what most 5 year old’s can comprehend. He is smart, witty, and full of determination.
So lately, our 5 year old has been spending his days at his daddy’s side learning about life. And I couldn’t think of any lesson more valuable or any other human that I’d want to teach him about life, other than his dad. In the meantime, I’m learning that when I give up control, God works things out better than I ever could’ve imagined.
We are looking at possible curriculum’s for next year and are considering Classical Conversations. If you’ve homeschooled before and have any suggestions, we’d love to hear from you!
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